letters from Ray | Can technology help us find love?

July 1, 2014


The promises of accelerating technology are impressive, possibly eliminating disease, poverty, and even death.

But I wonder what hope there is for the lonely. Personally, I’m approaching middle age and have never been on a date. And I know I’m not the only one out there in this situation.

Is there anything technology can do in the near or far future to help people like me find love?

I wouldn’t want to live forever if I had to do it alone.



Dear Kent,

I agree that loneliness is an important issue. Eliminating disease, poverty, death only deals with the lower rungs of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

As we meet our basic needs, then we do need such attributes as companionship, and a sense of purpose.

There are some low tech approaches to finding love. You could try joining a group that shares an interest of yours: square dancing, singing, a book club, walking, bicycling.

If you’re too shy to ask someone for a date in that type of social situation, you could try a dating service.

You are probably aware of this, but there are sites where you post a picture and description of yourself and then engage in messages leading up to a meeting. Another approach is a service that finds you dates based on your description.


You’re articulate so you should be able to find a soul mate!

Good luck,

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